Ross was on a break, Rachel wasn't. The End.

Dear von Hottie,

About a year ago, I went out with this girl - let's call her "Jane" - a few times. We hit it off incredibly well, better than I have with anyone else. Unfortunately, at the time, a misunderstanding led to us never really developing any kind of physical or romantic relationship, and there was a little bitterness on both sides from the whole thing (I'll spare you the details).

Anyway, after several months of not finding anyone even approaching the same galaxy of awesome as "Jane", we reconnected. About an hour after seeing her for the first time in a year, we were in bed. Up all night talking, not talking, generally being disgustingly cute and sappy.... instant relationship, just add water. It's been about a month now, and things are going fantastic.

The only thing that bugs me, though, is that the couple of times our previous time spent together comes up, she blames me for the entire deal. She doesn't do it in a mean way, and she doesn't hold a grudge; to her it's just something that happened that also happened to be my fault exclusively. That, suffice it to say, is not how I see it. And it's clearly not a big deal, because everything's going so well now. So, should I just get the hell over it and enjoy what I've got going? It's a small thing, but it gnaws at me just enough to be annoying. Please advise.

-A Minor Annoyance

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Dear Minor Annoyance,

Did you ever watch Friends? Well, you may recall one pivotal episode where Ross and Rachel had a fight. Rachel said, "Maybe we should take a break." Ross walked out the door, into a bar and right into the bed of hot Xerox girl. The next day he and Rachel made up, but they broke up again when she found out about Xerox girl. Ross spent the rest of the series (another,oh, SIX YEARS) defending himself with, "We were ON A BREAK!" Rachel never bought it. No one ever won that argument because it doesn't matter whether or not Ross and Rachel were ever on a break, the point is that Ross was on a break and Rachel wasn't.

Don't be Ross. Why ruin what seems to be a wonderful time by worrying over an argument that can never be resolved? Take your lovely lady into your life, your bed and your heart. Agree to disagree. Take the energy you would have spent arguing, and spend it on each other.

Love,

von Hottie