Dear von HottieIs there a good way to tell someone during sexytime to move it a little to the right or just a little to the left without sounding like a bossy control freak?love,no-my-right-not-your-right!
I take this question very seriously. Sexytime is no time to mess around! Sexytime is also a good time to practice asserting yourself so you can get the things you want out of life. You're not doing it for charity (hopefully), you're doing it to feel good! Also, your partner *wants* you to feel good, so help them out! Just ask for what you want! Say "A little to the right, a little to the left, etc." If you want to get fancy you can say it all breathy so it comes across as a desire rather than a command. If the verbal approach is still too embarrassing for you, take charge of the situation and move your hips or switch positions until they're hitting the right spot. Once you've got them where you want them, do not underestimate the power of positive reinforcement. Show your appreciation vocally, physically, with diamonds, however. You can also reinforce good sexytime behavior by complimenting your partner right after sexytime has been completed on which move exactly did it for you.
Bottom line: Do not be shy about asking for the things you want in life, especially the things that are designed to give you pleasure. Trust me, it's more polite to clue your partner in than to let them labor cluelessly. They will not think you are a "bossy control freak." An orgasm is the best compliment a lover can give, and they will likely thank you for helping them give you one.
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